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What does it mean to be a good enough Parent?<\/p>\n

The concept of a good enough parent is derived from the work and writing of D. W. Winnicott, which initially linked it only to good enough mothers. Then Bruno Bettelheim, in his book \u201cThe good enough Parent\u201d, took and generalized this concept to refer to both parents and made it more accessible to ordinary people.<\/p>\n

In Schema Therapy is often spoken of the Good Parent, as a facet of the Healthy Adult mode, which also includes this role. This parent is one that is open enough to be receptive to the needs of his child and to strive as far as he can meet these needs. Such a parent understands the difference between needs and desires or, if you like, between needs and whims. He can respond to the child with empathy and warmth, while managing to set healthy limits and protective borders where the child does not know or cannot do it.<\/p>\n

A good enough parent understands that he can be wrong in his role and is willing to admit and to repair when he does. He is flexible and open enough to be able to look at the needs of his own child and to see beyond his own projections about who or how his child is. He can see his child as a separate human being, with characteristics other than the ones that he identifies with, he can look beyond his own need to see the child as an extension of him or an extension of the family.<\/p>\n

Here are some of the features of a good enough Parent:<\/p>\n

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  • The Parent has the capacity to manage his\/her emotions without manifesting anger, fear.<\/li>\n
  • Ability to plan and think in anticipation<\/li>\n
  • The ability to respond emphatically and confidently to the needs of others and during moments of intense stress<\/li>\n
  • The ability to look and understand the child as a separate being with different needs and to continue to respect and love him if he does not meet his or her own expectations<\/li>\n
  • The ability to provide only as much help as it is needed and to be able to evaluate this correctly<\/li>\n
  • The ability to take more care of the present experiences of the child than of him as an Adult<\/li>\n
  • Ability to collaborate with other adults involved in child welfare<\/li>\n
  • The ability to look at vulnerability sympathetically and manage it with care and interest<\/li>\n
  • Ability to seek help and to value receiving help<\/li>\n
  • Ability to tolerate negative emotions without becoming impulsive or catastrophic<\/li>\n
  • The ability to tolerate postponing the meeting of their needs without giving them up<\/li>\n
  • The ability to enjoy, be spontaneous and experience pleasure \u2013 here can be included the sense of humor<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":1547,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"_price":"","_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_header":"","_tribe_default_ticket_provider":"","_tribe_ticket_capacity":"0","_ticket_start_date":"","_ticket_end_date":"","_tribe_ticket_show_description":"","_tribe_ticket_show_not_going":false,"_tribe_ticket_use_global_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_global_stock_level":"","_global_stock_mode":"","_global_stock_cap":"","_tribe_rsvp_for_event":"","_tribe_ticket_going_count":"","_tribe_ticket_not_going_count":"","_tribe_tickets_list":"[]","_tribe_ticket_has_attendee_info_fields":false,"footnotes":"","_members_access_role":[],"_members_access_error":""},"categories":[119],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1546","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-noutati"],"yoast_head":"\nCe \u00eenseamn\u0103 un P\u0103rinte suficient de bun? 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